Parenting through Pain - HeartShift

Dearest Parent,

Beverley — Wed, 14 Feb 2024 19:56:52 +0000

If you remember nothing else today, remember this. You are a mother, a father, a being who is a source of protection, comfort and of inspiration. Yes you’ve made mistakes but you are only human. That’s what makes you so beautiful, so admirable. You have the capacity to think, and feel and to know. You […]

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Unmasking Shame

Beverley — Sat, 17 Sep 2022 13:48:24 +0000

At the time, I was barely conscious of it but looking back it was certainly there. A shadowy presence that would suddenly appear looming over me and casting uncertainty over my very existence and already shaky sense of self. “You don’t matter”, I could hear it whisper. One of my earliest recollections of this voice […]

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What's Love Got To Do With It

Beverley — Sun, 13 Feb 2022 22:18:04 +0000

I’m sitting here with my ‘love mug’ - a cheap ceramic curio my son bought me from the school Valentine’s Day market - wondering about this thing called ‘Love’ and everything it’s teaching me. The Hollywood-Disney fantasies, 80s romcoms and Spandex pop culture give us this illusion of love that comes easily, is all-consuming and […]

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Trying to give what you haven't got

Beverley — Sun, 01 Aug 2021 08:42:18 +0000

There’s a grief that comes with parenthood. It came the moment I snapped at my two-year old and I woke up and had this numb sensation that I was not the parent I hoped I would be. I was angry and I didn’t even know it. I have heard the self-chastising or dismissive variation of […]

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